Therapy for Relationship Issues & Attachment Healing in California & Colorado
Online Psychotherapy for Adults Struggling with Intimacy, Attachment Patterns, and Emotional Connection
You Want Connection — But It Feels Complicated
Maybe you’re in a relationship that feels like work. You love your partner, but something’s always off—like you can’t quite settle, be yourself, or trust that things will hold steady. Or maybe you’re not with someone right now, but you keep finding yourself trapped in the same painful loops, losing yourself trying to make it work or shutting down completely just to feel safe.
You might wonder if you’re too sensitive, too much, or just not made for closeness.
But what if the struggle isn’t really about you? What if the way you experience love, trust, and safety is shaped by patterns that were written long before these relationships, deep in your body and heart?
Old Wounds and Attachment Patterns Keep You Stuck
Sometimes it’s not the fights or misunderstandings that keep you stuck—it’s the old wounds beneath them, the attachment patterns that quietly pull the strings. Those patterns come from the earliest places you learned what love feels like. Maybe love felt distant or unpredictable, or safety was fragile and uncertain. Maybe your heart learned to protect itself by holding back, pushing away, or clinging tightly in fear.
These invisible threads shape how you move through your relationships now—how you manage closeness, how you handle fear, how you protect yourself when love feels risky.
What Is Attachment — And Why It Matters
Attachment is the emotional bond we form early in life with our caregivers. It shapes how safe and connected we feel in relationships. Different attachment styles include:
Secure attachment, where you can trust and lean into closeness.
Anxious attachment, where you worry about being abandoned or not loved enough.
Avoidant attachment, where you keep distance to feel safe and protect yourself.
Disorganized attachment, which mixes fear and confusion around intimacy.
This blueprint isn’t a flaw — it’s your survival story. But it can also keep you stuck in patterns that make intimacy feel scary or exhausting.
Therapy That Helps You Understand and Soften Attachment Patterns
Therapy isn’t about fixing your partner or memorizing relationship advice. It’s about tuning into how your own heart and mind have learned to keep safe — and gently exploring what happens inside when love feels complicated.
When you begin to understand your attachment style, you can start to:
Loosen the old grip of fear and control.
Show up more present and authentic.
Trust your own needs — and your partner’s — more deeply.
A Depth-Oriented, Compassionate Approach to Healing Attachment
I offer therapy that goes beneath the surface, rooted in deep listening and relational connection. Together, we create a space where you can feel seen and safe enough to explore those old patterns and the emotions wrapped around them. This work moves slowly and carefully, honoring the complexity of how attachment shows up in your life and relationships.
It’s not about quick fixes or surface-level coaching — it’s about healing from the inside out.
Who This Work Is For
I work with adults across California and Colorado who:
Feel tired of repeating the same relationship struggles.
Carry anxiousness about closeness or find themselves shutting down.
Wrestle with trust and vulnerability.
Are navigating transitions like new partnerships, separation, or identity shifts.
Even if your partner isn’t in therapy, your willingness to begin can shift everything.
Begin Attachment-Focused Therapy Online in California or Colorado
I offer online therapy for adults throughout California and Colorado. Wherever you are — whether Santa Barbara, San Diego, San Francisco, Boulder, or Denver — you can access a compassionate space to explore attachment and heal your relationships.
If you’re ready to stop running old patterns and start feeling safer in connection, I’m here to walk with you.
Whether you’re in Santa Barbara, San Diego, San Francisco, Boulder, or Denver — we can work together remotely in a safe, consistent space.
If you’re ready to stop repeating old patterns and start building more grounded, connected relationships — I’d love to talk.
Reach out by text, call, or email to book a free 15-minute consultation.