Therapy for Codependency

For Adults in California & Colorado

You give so much — and still feel like it’s not enough.

You’re the one people rely on. You’re thoughtful, loyal, always available. You know how to show up for others — but somewhere along the way, you stopped showing up for yourself.

Maybe you say yes when you really mean no. You put everyone else’s needs first, then feel anxious, resentful, or totally drained. It’s like your worth is wrapped up in being needed — and without that, you’re not sure who you are.

If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. And you’re not broken. These patterns usually start early — long before you even had words for them.

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This Isn’t Just About Relationships — It’s About You

Codependency isn’t a flaw. It’s a way you learned to stay safe, to earn love, to stay connected. But now, it might be keeping you stuck.

In therapy, we’ll look at where these patterns came from — family dynamics, early relationships, the roles you learned to play — and how they’re showing up now.

You’ll start to:

  • Set boundaries without guilt

  • Listen to what you actually feel and want

  • Let go of the shame that comes with “not doing enough”

  • Build a relationship with yourself that feels steady and kind

My Approach to Therapy for Codependency

I offer deep, thoughtful therapy that helps you understand yourself better and build healthier relationships.

You won’t be judged or rushed. Instead, you’ll learn how to set clear boundaries, feel more confident in yourself, and manage your emotions in a way that feels doable.

The goal is for you to leave therapy feeling more grounded, in control, and able to handle life’s challenges with less stress.

Start Online or In-person Therapy for Codependency

You don’t have to keep doing it all, holding it all, or disappearing in order to feel loved.

I offer online therapy for adults across California and Colorado — including Santa Barbara, San Diego, Los Angeles, Denver, and Boulder.

If you’re ready to feel more like you in your relationships, I’d be honored to support you.

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Codependency Therapy FAQ

  • Codependency is a relational pattern where you put other people’s needs above your own — often at the cost of your well-being. It can involve people-pleasing, poor boundaries, approval-seeking, or difficulty knowing what you want or need.

  • If you often feel responsible for others’ emotions, have trouble saying no, feel guilt when prioritizing yourself, or notice you disappear in relationships — codependent patterns may be at play.

  • Yes. Therapy helps uncover the emotional roots of codependency and gives you space to practice new patterns — including boundary-setting, self-trust, and self-compassion.

  • It depends on your goals and life circumstances. Many people benefit from weekly therapy over several months to a year. This work can be deep — and deeply rewarding.

  • I use a depth-oriented approach that integrates modern psychoanalysis, contemplative psychotherapy, and DBT. We’ll look at the emotional history behind your current struggles while also building tools for regulation and change.

  • No. Caring and empathy are healthy and human. Codependency becomes an issue when caring for others consistently overrides your own needs, boundaries, and health.

  • Often, yes. It can overlap with anxiety, depression, trauma, and relationship struggles. Addressing codependency can help improve your overall emotional well-being.

  • No. Codependent patterns show up everywhere — in friendships, family dynamics, work, and how you treat yourself. You can do this work whether you’re single or partnered.